Those of you who have been to this blog before know that I constantly overthink minor details of my life. In most cases, this behaviour causes unnecessary stress, but there are times when I get something good out of it – and I’m hoping today’s post is the latter.
I spoke a little while ago about how lucky I actually am in my life, yet I don’t really feel it.
I have so many good things going on in my life at the moment, which is a total change from where I was just a couple of years ago.
My current schedule is full of work, meeting friends, and events which is odd for a hermit like me. I’m having such a good time making deep connections with new friends as well as reigniting the love I have for those who have been around much longer.
There is also a major change in the fact that my partner and I recently got engaged. This is something that we’d talked about a lot so it doesn’t feel too big of a deal to us at the moment, but our families are very happy and there’s a lot of celebrating to be had.
Basically, life is really good for me at the moment. It’s everything I could have ever wished it to me – and more – so why don’t I feel good all the time?
I think it’s so normal for us to feel like we’re lacking in some way, no matter what we have or who we are.
Social media does play a huge part in this, of course, but I don’t think it’s entirely to blame. I honestly think this kind of behaviour is just human nature – we just always want what other people have, no matter how good we have it ourselves.
Perhaps it’s like an innate competition thing, who knows?
I just wanted to take a little time today to talk about this issue. I don’t have a solution as of yet, but I know I’m not the only one who deals with this.
If you feel as though your life isn’t where you want it to or that things aren’t as good for you as they may be for your peers, just think about what you do have.
You never know what is going on behind closed doors and how much work has gone into someone looking like they have a good life. You shouldn’t get down on yourself because you feel like you don’t match up.
It’s a sad fact, but it’s likely that the person you are idolising or are jealous of doesn’t even understand that their life is so good. It’s a sad little cycle of jealousy that feels difficult to escape when you’re in it.
But we can escape it.
We tend to not know or appreciate the things we already have, because we’re so busy being blinded by everyone else. So why don’t we change things?
Gratitude is one of those words that makes me cringe, but it really does apply here. We all need to be more grateful for the things we already have in our lives.
I think if we spent more time actually sitting in that gratitude – really experiencing it and feeling it – we probably wouldn’t have much room left over to be jealous of other people.
This is something I’m going to try do more in my life, so I’ll keep you updated to see if it works!